Cape Fear Community and Support Group for Widows
Our Mission for Widows
We serve to empower widows to lean into life, build resilience and make a positive difference in society.
Modern Widows Club is designed to create a safe and private environment for widows to lean into life together through the journey.
We are the club no one wants to be in because you only get in by virtue of experiencing a great loss. Yet what I hope you find once you’re here is that you’re surrounded by a community of really amazing women that you can lean on and learn from. We’re widows helping widows to live– to go upward and onward. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. We talk about how to tackle challenges without our husbands’ help and cheer each other on. We often share food as we do this, because who doesn’t like to eat?
When a woman loses her husband she tends to feel very alone. Regardless of her age or circumstances, she can use other women in her life who understand the unique challenges she is now faced with. She needs women who will build her up and encourage her in this new life she walks. We are stronger together. No woman is an island. We need each other.
Meet Our Community Advocates
Megan is the mother of two adult children; Jaden, her daughter is attending ECU & her son, Bruce a SUNY Maritime grad and now new to the maritime industry. In April of 2010, Megan and her late husband Keith were given devastating news, Keith’s ALS diagnosis. During four bittersweet caregiving years Keith’s normal chipper personality radiated from him, he was an absolute pleasure to be around. Megan excelled in knowledge about Medicare, advocacy, therapies, drug trials and they both learned how to live a legacy. Sadly, Keith died in 2014 leaving the family devastated. Megan naively thought her anticipatory grief would make her more resilient in the first year of widowhood. Nothing could be further from the truth; you really can’t ever imagine… Three years later, Megan was encouraged by her therapist to “find her tribe”. Megan started following MWC years earlier on Facebook and thought “someday I will open a community…”. Finally, she attended a meeting in Atlanta in the summer of 2019 and in September was eager to start a new community for our area. As soon as the idea crossed her lips, she was introduced to her co-leader Kathy. The support and mission is exactly the group Megan wished she had six years ago, and is proud to lead today.
Professionally, Megan owns her own financial firm, specializing in comprehensive financial planning. Megan turns an overwhelming process into small tasks with much compassion, especially for a newly single person. Small tasks become small victories that are the steppingstones to living your best, now that you are on your own. Megan resides in downtown Wilmington and looks forward to greeting you, in support of one another.
Kathy is the mother of one adult child, Jennifer who is a pharmacist. Jennifer and her husband Mathew, a veterinarian, have blessed Kathy with 2 grandchildren, Tommy who is 6 years old, and Maggie who is 4 years old. When Tom, Kathy’s husband, was diagnosed with colon cancer after a routine screening colonoscopy, Kathy, a registered nurse, found herself on the “other side of the bed” suddenly juggling being a family member with being a caregiver. Tom lived his remaining years through surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation therapy and other therapeutic interventions with his usual positive approach. Tom didn’t see the cup has half full or half empty, he saw it as overflowing! Sadly, Tom died in 2013 leaving the family devastated. As Kathy navigated the widow role, she began to realize how limited the support system was. She became interested in finding a way to provide ongoing support to other widows who were facing similar experiences. Fortunately, she was introduced to Megan, who had knowledge of the Modern Widows Club. She now looks forward to helping Megan bring this support system to Wilmington and the North Carolina Cape Fear region.
Kathy is retired and resides in Carolina Beach. Like Megan, she looks forward to greeting you, in support of one another.