Spiritual Health for Widows

Relieving or Re-living the Pain?

Dixie K.

“When will the pain stop?”

Every time I am asked this question, it always saddens me to say, “It won’t.”

I don’t want to sound pessimistic, but it is true. The pain never ends, but life does go on. You learn to live with the pain, you learn to manage the loss you feel. You learn every morning is new and the days troubles are enough within itself, than to continue to relive the pain of yesterday. “Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:34 b)

There is no magic date. There is no sacred timetable. There is only you, the pain, and time. It all can work together for good (Romans 8:28), but you have to work toward that end.  Perhaps that is the better question: “Are you working toward relieving the pain instead of reliving the pain?” There’s a question you can answer. It’s either ‘yes’ or ‘no.’ The time is now, start doing that now, and hopefully soon you can say, “The pain hasn’t stopped, but it hasn’t stopped me.”

Blessings, Dixie

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