Emotional & Mental Health for Widows

Put Up a Windmill: Flexibility as a Widow

Carolyn Moor

Flexibility in widowhood isn’t just about ‘going with the flow’ – it’s about being alert and open to the expansiveness of the state of awareness we are living with. We are able to embrace and make constructive use of this new life stage when we see obstacles not as stumbling blocks, but as stepping stones and problems as opportunities. (That means you have a lot of opportunities on the way, right!).

Listen, I know how this life brings the most difficult obstacles that seem impossible to endure and overcome….I’m not diminishing the fact of how true that is. But, I am a testament, and so are many here, that leaning into tools like flexibility can save many a heartache and explosion that only makes it worse.

“When the high winds blow, put up a windmill”

Harness the power of allowing yourself a future with less suffering and resistance. When we fight the intensity of this life of loss, we contribute to some of the suffering that comes into our daily lives. It took me a long time to learn this, and why I’m sharing it with you today.

Visualize yourself as the willow tree in the wind. Bend, so you don’t break. You are too important and too loved to break babe. It connects you to hope and allows those moments that feel like they are going to break to instead give way to grace. More grace, more space to breathe.

My challenge to you is to notice places & situations you may be more flexible and see what comes of it. Give it a chance.

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Knowing there are women who have not only survived what I was going through, but were also thriving and moving forward in their lives.
— MSC Wister® (Widow + Sister)