Southern California Community and Support Group for Widows
Our Mission for Widows
We serve to empower widows to lean into life, build resilience and make a positive difference in society.
Modern Widows Club is designed to create a safe and private environment for widows to lean into life together through the journey.
We are the club no one wants to be in because you only get in by virtue of experiencing a great loss. Yet what I hope you find once you’re here is that you’re surrounded by a community of really amazing women that you can lean on and learn from. We’re widows helping widows to live- to go upward and onward. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. We talk about how to tackle challenges without our partners’ help and cheer each other on. We often share food as we do this, because who doesn’t like to eat?
When a woman loses her loved one she tends to feel very alone. Regardless of her age or circumstances, she will benefit from other women in her life who understand the unique challenges she is now faced with. She needs women who will build her up and encourage her in this new life she walks. We are stronger together. No woman is an island. We need each other.
Meet Our Community Advocates
Lisa is a mother, author, and educator. On February 6th, 2010, her 7-year-old son found her husband/his father had passed away from a drug overdose; this shattered their world. Weeks later, she sold her home and moved across the country to North Carolina for support from her extended family. The people and nature of the south were instrumental in helping her heart heal.
After many years of supporting and helping widows work through their grief with induced afterlife communication, she committed to serving humanity through her community of widows. Her goal is to help widows nurture their gifts so they can strengthen their spirits and bring comfort to their aching hearts.
I am a small business owner with two grown daughters and 2 very handsome grandsons. On June 16, 2021 at 8:06 am my world shattered, my husband, Billy, of 30 years took a sawed off shotgun out to the pool while I was in the bathroom and decided to end his suffering from a rare autoimmune disease which has no cure and no ribbon, that’s how rare the disease is. His disease polymyositis is highlighted in the Mark Wahlberg movie “Father Joe.”
With suicide there are many stigmas, with widowhood there are misconceptions. Billy always told me I was the strongest woman he had ever met in all his 65 years. I called on every ounce of that strength and with the help and support of my daughters I was able to finally crack an egg and cook it (completing a task is important to healing). In October of 2021 I trained with United Way to be a certified suicide counselor, volunteering on the national hotline helping those in crisis, hoping in some small way I can save someone else from the pain.
I decided in June of 2022 it was time to broaden my horizons and hoped to find some way to help other women who were widows. I found Modern Widows Club online, (yay google) I spoke with Lisa who was just starting as the Community Advocate in So Cal and as they say. The rest is history. I am excited to work beside Lisa and to be a small part of MWC.