San Diego Community and Support Group for Widows

Our Mission for Widows

We serve to empower widows to “lean into life,” build resilience and release their potential to make a positive difference in the world.

Modern Widows Club is designed to create a safe and private environment for widows to lean into life together through the journey.

We are the club no one wants to be in because you only get in by virtue of experiencing a great loss. Yet what I hope you find once you’re here is that you’re surrounded by a community of really amazing women that you can lean on and learn from. We’re widows helping widows to live– to go upward and onward. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. We talk about how to tackle challenges without our husbands’ help and cheer each other on. We often share food as we do this, because who doesn’t like to eat?

When a woman loses her husband she tends to feel very alone. Regardless of her age or circumstances, she can use other women in her life who understand the unique challenges she is now faced with. She needs women who will build her up and encourage her in this new life she walks. We are stronger together. No woman is an island. We need each other.

Meet Our Community Advocate

Victoria M.

I became a widow in May of 2019 after losing my husband of almost 11 years to suicide. In an instant, I became a 37-year-old widow with two young kids. I have a strong support system of family and friends. But not knowing any young widows, I began to feel alone and misunderstood about my experience, especially with the complicated emotions that come with suicide loss.

6-weeks after losing my husband, I attended a widow conference in my hometown of San Diego. My eyes were opened to the resources and community of others who could understand my grief. Connecting with other widow groups and communities has been key to my emotional healing and helped me realize that I wanted to turn my pain into a purpose and help others on their healing journey and to normalize grief, trauma and loss. I am excited to lead a much-needed community in San Diego as a way to help inspire, encourage and empower other widows on their grief journey.