Los Angeles Community and Support Group for Widows
Our Mission for Widows
We serve to empower widows to “lean into life,” build resilience and release their potential to make a positive difference in the world.
Modern Widows Club is designed to create a safe and private environment for widows to lean into life together through the journey.
We are the club no one wants to be in because you only get in by virtue of experiencing a great loss. Yet what I hope you find once you’re here is that you’re surrounded by a community of really amazing women that you can lean on and learn from. We’re widows helping widows to live– to go upward and onward. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. We talk about how to tackle challenges without our husbands’ help and cheer each other on. We often share food as we do this, because who doesn’t like to eat?
When a woman loses her husband she tends to feel very alone. Regardless of her age or circumstances, she can use other women in her life who understand the unique challenges she is now faced with. She needs women who will build her up and encourage her in this new life she walks. We are stronger together. No woman is an island. We need each other.
Meet Our Community Advocates
Jen is the former co-advocate of the Seattle community of MWC and with a move to the Los Angeles area in 2016, she launched the first MWC Community in California in October 2017. She also proudly serves on the Board of Directors for MWC. She was widowed on December 26, 2012 when her husband, Todd suffered a sudden heart attack at the age of 40. After a successful 20 year career in leadership roles within the tourism industry, her focus shifted to being a full time mom to her two young boys. What has emerged from her journey is a passion for writing as well as her life’s purpose in serving and advocating for her widow sisters around the world.
Her mission is to align those walking this widow journey with a holistic approach to both healing and achieving a whole life filled with joy and purpose.
I became a widow on May 22, 2014. Russell (67) and I (66) were traveling, making plans and enjoying life in retirement. I clearly remember belting out the lyrics to “Happy” in my car several weeks before my sudden loss. Suffering from back pain for ten days, I took him to the hospital on Monday, he was diagnosed with cancer everywhere on Tuesday, he went into a coma on Wednesday and he died on Thursday. In four days, I had lost my love and best friend of 37 years. My head was spinning. I remember crying a lot and spending Christmas with my sister’s family. I was muddling along one day at a time but not “tuned in”.
I have a very supportive family and close friends; I have traveled worldwide quite a bit; I have worked for my brother several days a month, but I was not moving forward, living a lazy life without any real purpose. One day in June, 2018, a fellow widow friend took me to an MWC LA Community meeting. She didn’t stay, but I did. I accepted monthly challenges from Carolyn’s videos to do something positive to move forward and actually began to thrive, little by little, in MWC.
Jen J., the LA community advocate, mentored me with lots of love for months. One day in 2019 we needed a new place to meet and I offered my home. In 2019, Jen explained to the group that her responsibilities on the MWC Board were taking more time and we needed a new advocate. Suddenly, I was in the process of moving from being a fairly new member to being a leader. Lacking confidence, Jen slowly talked me through the fear. Now in 2020 comes Cindy T. , Jen’s mentor and now mine. I have never worked with a more dedicated woman.
I can sing “Happy” now! The journey continues!