Houston/Katy Community and Support Group for Widows
The Houston/Katy Community is currently meeting virtually. Contact the Community Advocate for meeting location and details.
Our Mission for Widows
We serve to empower widows to “lean into life,” build resilience and release their potential to make a positive difference in the world.
Modern Widows Club is designed to create a safe and private environment for widows to lean into life together through the journey.
We are the club no one wants to be in because you only get in by virtue of experiencing a great loss. Yet what I hope you find once you’re here is that you’re surrounded by a community of really amazing women that you can lean on and learn from. We’re widows helping widows to live – to go upward and onward. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. We talk about how to tackle challenges without our husbands’ help and cheer each other on. We often share food as we do this, because who doesn’t like to eat?
When a woman loses her husband she tends to feel very alone. Regardless of her age or circumstances, she can use other women in her life who understand the unique challenges she is now faced with. She needs women who will build her up and encourage her in this new life she walks. We are stronger together. No woman is an island. We need each other.
Meet Our Community Advocates
Nyla lost her husband to lung cancer in August of 2013. They were married for 22 years. Although she was very grateful to have had those years, no amount of time would have been long enough. She has 4 adult children (2 “bonus” and 2 biological) and 7 grandchildren. She is a retired registered nurse, an avid dog fancier, and self-proclaimed “foodie”. Originally from Minnesota, she has been in Texas since the early 80’s and now considers the Houston area “home”.
“When my husband died, I began looking for others who understood the path–women that would “get it”. Despite a close and loving family and many long time friends that were kind and supportive, I was looking for those that could identify with the journey to finding a new, albeit un-chosen and unwanted, way of life. I have found that band of women through Modern Widows Club. Every time I come home from our meetings, I feel so uplifted and understood. I hope to find ways to connect with and support others going through this challenging time, as we each become a new, different, and hopefully better person. I am honored now be the leader of the Central Houston Chapter. My goal is to help other widows find community and a comfortable, safe environment to move into the future while honoring the past.”
In December 2015, we had just celebrated our wedding anniversary and were preparing to leave for the Christmas holidays with our young granddaughters when Sam had a stroke. We spent the next 3 months in various hospitals, but he could not recover and passed away in March 2016. I had no family in the Houston area. I grew up in Maine and lived in New Mexico and Florida, and leaned heavily on my church for support. I found Modern Widows Club through Facebook while searching for other avenues of support. They started an MWC Community in our area almost a year later, and I attended my first meeting. I remember the sense of belonging and total understanding that I had not felt since before Sam died. I had found a community of support.
I am actively involved in my church as a Sunday school teacher and lay preacher. I work as a literacy coach for a PK- 5 public school. I am an avid reader and usually read more than 100 books a year. My granddaughters continue to be the loves of my life, and keeping Sam’s memory and legacy going for them is something I take seriously.
I feel that supporting my fellow wisters as a Community Advocate is an honor and a ministry. The joy of belonging and the empowerment we provide make me proud to serve in this way.
Tracy lost her husband in June of 2018 to Glioblastoma (primary brain cancer). She and her husband met when she was 18 years old, and it was love at first sight. They were married five years after they first met and married for 31 years when he died. They were truly soul mates and enjoyed a full life together. They traveled, made many friends, took advantage of every adventure life presented and had 2 children (Ryan and Sarah). Originally from California, Tracy has lived in Houston since her childhood and considers the Houston/Katy area “home.”
When my husband died, I was very lost and began to lean on others as a guide to navigate my day-to-day life. A good friend had been widowed the previous year and was a lifesaver as I was figuring out my new life. She invited me to Modern Widows Club one week, and it felt safe. Safe to ask questions, safe to cry, safe to be vulnerable. My goal in this community is to provide that same “safe” feeling when meeting new members. I just want to support other widows.