Central Houston Community and Support Group for Widows
Our Mission for Widows
We serve to empower widows to “lean into life,” build resilience and release their potential to make a positive difference in the world.
Modern Widows Club is designed to create a safe and private environment for widows to lean into life together through the journey.
We are the club no one wants to be in because you only get in by virtue of experiencing a great loss. Yet what I hope you find once you’re here is that you’re surrounded by a community of really amazing women that you can lean on and learn from. We’re widows helping widows to live – to go upward and onward. Sometimes we cry and sometimes we laugh. We talk about how to tackle challenges without our husbands’ help and cheer each other on. We often share food as we do this, because who doesn’t like to eat?
When a woman loses her husband she tends to feel very alone. Regardless of her age or circumstances, she can use other women in her life who understand the unique challenges she is now faced with. She needs women who will build her up and encourage her in this new life she walks. We are stronger together. No woman is an island. We need each other.
Meet Our Community Advocates
Nyla lost her husband to lung cancer in August of 2013. They were married for 22 years. Although she was very grateful to have had those years, no amount of time would have been long enough. She has 4 adult children (2 “bonus” and 2 biological) and 7 grandchildren. She is a retired registered nurse, an avid dog fancier, and self-proclaimed “foodie”. Originally from Minnesota, she has been in Texas since the early 80’s and now considers the Houston area “home”.
“When my husband died, I began looking for others who understood the path–women that would “get it”. Despite a close and loving family and many long time friends that were kind and supportive, I was looking for those that could identify with the journey to finding a new, albeit un-chosen and unwanted, way of life. I have found that band of women through Modern Widows Club. Every time I come home from our meetings, I feel so uplifted and understood. I hope to find ways to connect with and support others going through this challenging time, as we each become a new, different, and hopefully better person. I am honored now be the leader of the Central Houston Chapter. My goal is to help other widows find community and a comfortable, safe environment to move into the future while honoring the past.”
Mary’s husband passed away from a rare liver melanoma, in December of 2010, two days before their 38th wedding anniversary. She is a retired K-2 teacher and is enjoying retirement in an over 55 community in the greater Houston area. Besides visiting with her 3 grown children and six grandchildren, Mary enjoys scrapbooking and making greeting cards, reading, line dancing, water aerobics, and getting together with her wonderful new neighbors. A native Texan, Mary has lived in the Houston area since 1973.
“I went to various Grief Share groups for the first year or so after my husband died. Most people I came in contact with were overwhelmed and had no idea of how to move forward. I came home after each meeting feeling terrible. I wanted to find people who realized that we were ‘still here’ and figured that there must be a way to rebuild a life that meant something! Nyla B. introduced me to the Modern Widows Club. What a delightful group of women! I saw courage and drive, acknowledgment of lives that were irrevocably changed by sadness and death, but lives that were being put back together with determination and dedication. I’ve made new friends and hope that I’ve been able to offer encouragement to others as we move forth together. My motto has been: All in good time, with the help of my friends.”